Sunday, July 17, 2011
I Married a Man, Not an ISP
Now that we have internet (and smart phones and so on), I find that I must be more purposeful in protecting the time my husband and I have together. His job already takes a great portion of his time and I try to structure my days so that whatever time he has at home is not time that I am spending on the internet. However, I'll be the first to admit that this is hard to do!
For example, when I think of a question, it's so easy to want to google the answer. And of course, when you start jumping across all of those internet links, it's so easy to just keep on reading. Before I know, precious time that I could spend on my husband has been lavished on my laptop and that's just not how God would have me order my life.
From childhood, I learned that the relationship of husband and wife mirrors that of Christ and his beloved church. To my way of thinking, spending too much time on the computer or downloading music to my iPod takes time away from what should be the deepest, most intimate human relationship of my earthly life. In that sense, if we do not examine our bahaviors and prayerfully manage our time spent with social media, that media can become an idol in our lives and it can come between us and our husbands. This is something I earnestly try to avoid - hence my attempts to limit computer usage to times when my husband is not home.
However, as with many things, social media can be a positive in marriage, too. I can send my husband little love emails during the day or forward him something I think he will find uplifting or amusing when he has breaks between tasks at work. In that sense, media helps strengthen the bond between us. As with so many things in life, social media is neither intrinsically good nor inherently evil. We simply need to exercise discernment in how we use it.
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