I think we all do it. "I wish my hair would hang just right like hers does." "I wish I could be like her and make a gorgeous centerpiece with just construction paper, salad greens, beads and a paper clip." "I wish I could afford to stay at home like she does." "I wish I could be as godly as my neighbor." It's endless, the way these dissatisfying thoughts just creep into our minds.
When asked, I can always respond that God has a plan for me. But somewhere along the way, I think we get so caught up in trying to fit in that it's easy to forget that just because God has a plan doesn't mean it's the exact same plan for every single person. Our blessings and our struggles won't look the same.
And we are reminded of this by Paul in his first letter to the Corinthians. In Chapter 12, he tells us that, "the body does not consist of one member but of many," and he goes on in 1 Corinthians 12:17 to say, "If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell?" In other words, the body of Christ needs us to have different gifts and callings because we each serve different and indispensable purposes.
I've heard this passage preached many times, yet it's a message all too easy to forget. One of the blessings I find online is that I have access to so much more in terms of information and ideas than I would have had otherwise. And the fellowship I find there is so sweet. However, that comparison game that we sometimes find ourselves pulled into offline seems to multiply itself ten times online. After all, we have smiling and happy Facebook pages, astounding Pinterest ideas, and bloggers who are way better at crafts than I ever even thought about being.
Sometimes I see all of that and I feel the temptation to be pulled into comparisons coming on. But then there's that still, small voice reminding me that, "You have a calling and it's not the same as hers." "Don't follow your neighbor, follow Me." And best of all, when I'm tempted to compare what I'm doing to what my sisters in Christ might be doing, I can remember being taught that "If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together."(1 Corinthians 12:26) And living in this way is so much better than wishing we could be just like someone else, isn't it?
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